I have been debating writing this for about a month now. I feel it is important to be transparent and not only share the good things in your life online – because let’s face it, we all know that isn’t real life – and this is different than what I’ve been posting. So, I guess I’m writing this to help myself, and if this makes at least one person feel better or inspires someone in some way, that’s it’s enough for me.
For the past 3 or so years, I put most of my heart and energy into something.
And guess what? It didn’t work out. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things just don’t work out. No matter how much you hate to, you have to give up.
It’s easy to get so caught up in chasing something, or someone. But, where does that leave you when it’s gone? Stuck in a constant cycle of feeling lost and confused and empty – when you lose yourself in something, it’s hard to remember who you are without it.
I’ll be the first to admit, in the process of trying to find someone else, I lost myself – my attitude about myself became directly correlated with how I was treated. A few months ago, I couldn’t remember the last time I put myself first – I was so focused on trying to be involved in someone else’s life and feelings that I put mine second.
I’m sure many of you know a feeling similar to this, regardless of what situation it stems from… but you know what?
It’s ok. It’s ok that things don’t always work out like we want them to. Sometimes you can do everything possible and it won’t work out like you wanted, and it’s ok! It’s taken me a while to come to terms with that.
So now what?
Focus on yourself, on God, on your passions – find whatever gets you out of bed in the morning and cling to it. Find what you love. Throw yourself into it 100%. Eventually, you’ll be able to pour your heart into something again and it will be beautiful and everything will be okay.
You are enough. You aren’t defined by anyone else, and your self-worth isn’t dependent on anyone else.
Photographer: Cameron Wilder
“You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living, breathing screaming invitation to believe better things.”